Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
The best Predicament Bondage is when you are tied down so securely that you can’t move ...but it hurts...so you HAVE to move...except when you move it hurts more! Bodybuilder Derek Pain came to us with a taste for extreme bondage. How could we tie him up like he'd never been tied before? Well, if a spectacular bod, handsome face, and true masculinity like that doesn't inspire you, you might as well hang up your cuffs! It takes a twisted mind and a well-equipped dungeon to have the kind of vertical and horizontal attachments necessary to tie someone like this and fortunately... we have both!
Thursday, August 20, 2009
These fantasies tend to get big and operatic because there isn't any reality testing--people fantasize huge, intense, heavy group scenes where they are the center of attention of some pretty tough characters....Top or bottom, but funny how few see themselves on the periphery...
When younger I used to more or less take a guy at his word and give him what he asked for, sometimes painfully sincerely. On the other hand I'd tell a guy upfront that it wasn't going to work to make him stop thinking about it --that he'd hate it but still jerk off to it afterwards, with the added 'fuck-you' that he'd damage his own fantasy of what he wanted.....meaning that he'd still want it and think about it all the time but be so afraid after too big a trip to start with that he'd only do it again when drunk or loaded. That way he'd get the worst of both worlds, a trip that was more emotionally traumatizing than physically painful and have to take years to sort it all out. Personally, I don't like causing emotional pain, just a lot of physical pain, some days more than others, and only with guys who convince me they want it.
On the other hand, why do some guys want pain at all? I think that's exactly the same kind of unanswerable question as 'why are some people gay...or straight...or bi?' They just are, and the sooner they tell the truth about it all the better their life works....but that's just my opinion, one of ....well, many doesn't cover it.....
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Monday, August 3, 2009
Friday, July 31, 2009
These lecture/demos are made incredibly easy by the fact that Jim gets so tough when the lights go up...and he was tough to start with. No matter what I do, Jim can take it so of course we gravitate towards heavy ball hitting. Since that is the hardest of the testicle tortures to handle out of the usual four (ball pulling, electro-stim, nut crushing, and percussion) we do a lot more hitting than any beginner could handle. Editing the video I was struck by now many TIMES I struck Jim, somewhere around three hundred separate hits, right in the groin!
In the next few days we'll have the entire series of Cock and Ball Torture Lecture/Demos up for sale on www.RogerofSF.com, the ones done in Dallas, Seattle, Atlanta, San Francisco, and now the second San Francisco show. Or, come to think of it you could just call the orderline, 1 888 811-8828.
Monday, July 27, 2009
Saturday, July 25, 2009
Now, it’s not like I can’t take directions, I just find it more fun to give them. This is not to say that handing over the car keys and being taken for a drive through your own nervous system isn’t a good idea for Tops—God forbid they should learn something! I started topping (bondage and torture sex to orgasm) at 11 and wasn’t even tied down till nearly two decades later. This pretty much guaranteed that I was a slow learner; it was the other guy who was suffering for my mistakes... Roger of Shotgun
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Every time I play with someone new I realize how little I know about anybody, much less my new partner. Everybody feels what they feel differently—the sense of touch is radically different, person-to-person. Surprisingly, most people don’t account for that and just touch you the way they like to be touched; after all it’s good enough for them, you ought to like it too, right? Maybe, maybe not, there’s just a huge gulf of difference in how we live in our bodies. Some guys like it slow and firm, others like it fast, right now, and what are you waiting for? Not only that, but few people have the vocabulary or the nerve to tell you exactly what they like and how they like it. I do, but that’s not fair as I am a guy who is an extrovert, a risk taker. and a sex maniac—or is that redundant?
For those of us who play with new partners it makes sense to realize that you’re in bed with an alien. How does this guy talk (in terms of body language)? How does he hear, or in terms of sensation how does he feel what he feels? Does he come easily or not at all? I haven’t got a clue, but finding out can be a lot of fun. There is an intuition about how that other person is experiencing what you’re doing that can kick right in if you cultivate it. And wouldn’t it be scary to have encounters with new people is that intuition didn’t exist? Just as all the best conversationalists are defined by the quality of their listening skills, your status as a great lover starts with your physical and emotional ‘listening skills’. That other person is telling you volumes about what they feel and what they want, without saying a word, you just have to learn how to listen.
I think you start by devoting your total attention to them. No TV, no video, no thoughts about what you’d like for dinner (besides him, I mean)
Monday, July 13, 2009
Sunday, July 12, 2009
Saturday, July 11, 2009
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Tomorrow night join Shotgun at the San Francisco Citadel. Doors open at 8:00PM. This will be a live, no demo, hardcore CBT event with Roger and Jim Roberts.
Balls crushed in a vice
Is he fisting Jim or squeezing his balls?
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
I got a question from one of my more conservative friends’ yesterday---“Why do you have to go to all that trouble with the gear and the bondage and the what, it looks like tools instead of sex toys, why can’t you get off on just sucking and fucking? That’s a reasonable question, although there are a lot of incorrect assumptions in it. I don’t ‘have to’, none of us ‘have to do anything’, it’s a choice, and a fun one. And, I suppose it’s only bother and trouble if you think of it that way instead of as an adventure. And who said we stopped enjoying sucking and fucking? You don’t have to be jaded to enjoy different music rather than the one or two songs you’ve been singing...or making the other guy sing, depending.
We don’t learn about sex sitting in an armchair, we get in the water and do our best to learn how to swim. Its physical experience and skill that we learn, not just concepts. Along the way we learn what turns us on and what doesn’t. Who says we have to stop learning once we know how to stay afloat? What turns us on changes over time, and some new things can be surprisingly, perversely exiting.
How many times have I heard, “But I’m not into bondage!”? I’ve got a ready answer to that, and to the rest of the ‘I’m-not-intas”—let’s let your dick tell us both how much or low little you like it. Regardless of your preconceptions or opinions it’s going to either wake up and look for the party or slumber on. It isn’t much of a half-truth when your dick goes rock hard, you’re on to something. In other words, The Dick Never Lies, or In Penis Veritas! It’s been my experience that the more a guy holds onto the attitude that he knows everything he’s into and doesn’t want to try anything new, the less happy he is with his sex life. Are you happy with yours? When was the last time you tried something new? It’s not a diet of constant novelty that does it, it’s the playful attitude and open mind that is necessary for good sex. Come to think of it, if it really isn’t play it can become work. How many people are working too hard to enjoy themselves in a sandbox that is just too small? Lovemaking improves as well with a lighter heart, maybe even more so. When you were discovering the one you love chances are you tried a lot of stuff....or just kept coloring between the lines. And yes, I did learn about sex in grammar school, why do you ask?
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Ball-Busters Play Party
at the San Francisco Citadel
Roger and the absurdly sexy Jim Roberts will be there to greet you and maybe show you a perverse ball-bashing technique or two....or three...or maybe get a good look at some of your own. If you haven't been to the Citadel yet you owe it to yourself to check it out--what kind of a self-respecting cosmopolitan city wouldn't have a well furnished public dungeon?
July 22, 2009 8:00PM
Cock and Ball Torture Lecture/
Roger and Jim Roberts will show you how it’s all done! Whether it’s pulling, pressure, percussion, electricity, wax, or any of a number of other categories of... stimulation...or real torture...., when you’ve got ‘em by the balls, you’ve got power. Genital torture requires a variety of techniques that are teachable, learnable, and today, physically demonstrable. How to make it hurt good, and otherwise, safely, relatively sanely, and still have them beg for more...or really beg for less.... You know you’ve had a great CBT date when you get both 24 red roses AND slashed tires....
But where do these feelings come from the first time. Some guys just fall into it, say wrestlers who get a cheap shot to the balls and then are embarassed as hell when they get an erection. Same thing for rugby, football, and especially water polo--I think it's required to be a testicle sadist to be on a water polo team. Sometimes though, nearly everybody has the thought cross his mind that getting tied down might be interesting, maybe far too interesting. Or maybe they have the nerve to share with a play partner that they'd maybe like to bind them and see what comes.....up!
I don't think these feelings are coming from suggestions from the media, or friends, or other outside influences, I think they are wired in. What made the boys in my neighborhood want to play Cowboys and Indians and always have the indians tie up the cowboys and subject them to various Indian tortures? Well, in my neighborhood it was me, and even at 11 years old I made sure that no victim ever got tied down without getting sore balls. Back then I had no technique, didn't know how to make it hurt good, had no idea about consent issues or safety issues, I just knew what I wanted I always wanted to be the Indian, and to do my best to make up for years of Indian mistreatment by dive-bombing Cowboy balls. OK, mixed metaphor, but it's amazing how many of the boys in my old neighborhood developed a taste for it. Many of 'em learned to love it and some loved to hate it but surprisingly few didn't want to play our painful games.
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Roger of San Francisco is a S&M and bondage professional, teacher, and player. Roger is a master of gradual, physical S&M, from sensual to intense, and specializes in CBT (Cock and Ball Torture) and TT (chestwork). Although dominant and sadistic, Roger works well with both nervous beginners and experienced players. Roger has appeared in a number of SHOTGUN VIDEOS, and works primarily in his well-equipped San Francisco Dungeon. Travel is available for advanced CBT players. His ground rules are simple and unchanging: NO fluid exchange or other unsafe practices, NO harm done, NO safe words, and NO drugs.
- 180LBS, 30W
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